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I’m pro-divorce, yes I said it!

Oct 26, 2016 | Candice King

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So I haven’t been married before so how can I actually form an opinion about divorce?  Here’s why I think I can. I am a child of divorce so I know what its like to come from a household where my parents didn’t live together. I know that everyone is affected by divorce differently but I think I turned out quite well. 

No, I haven’t been married before and that’s simply because I have yet to meet someone I can see myself with for the REST of my life. I know that sounds bizarre considering that I had two kids with someone; but when I was in my twenties, I was dead set against marriage because I wasn’t sure if the person I was with was the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I didn’t and still don’t feel you have to be married in order to have kids. I’m older now and I think I am ready to get married – when I meet the right person - and I want to get married one time only. Having said that, that’s what I want, that’s not to say that I will never get divorced if I got married. 

I believe whole-heartedly that life is too short to be anything but happy. I hope and pray that I one day marry someone I can call my best friend and am happy and in love with him for the rest of my life. I want to enter a marriage believing without a shadow of a doubt that we will be together forever. But sometimes life happens and people change. Let’s say 10 years down the line we are different people and are no longer happy. Do we stay together and force a marriage or do we allow each other to find lasting love and happiness with someone else?

I trust in the sanctity of marriage and everything that it stands for but I also believe that if you aren’t happy in your situation you should change it. That applies to a marriage, a job or a friendship. Please don’t get me wrong; I don’t encourage anyone to get divorced over small issues. You should 100% give it your best shot and do everything you can to make it work but if it doesn’t, don’t make yourself and the next person unhappy. At the end of the day, I’d rather be alone and happy than in a marriage and unhappy.