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New year, same ol' me

Jan 08, 2017 | Candice King

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As we enter the second week of January, I’m sure that you are all beyond tired of the ‘new year, new me’ babble … don’t worry, that’s not what this post is about; I intend on staying the opinionated, straight-forward, foul-mouthed individual I’ve always been.

I’ve been meaning to write this post for weeks now but I really just wanted to spend the festive season with my family and friends. I actually cannot believe that my leave is nearly over but I’ve truly had the best holiday.

Now back to the point of this post.

I don’t believe in new years resolutions. I’ve never set them and have no intention of doing so in the future. Why wait for a new year before achieving goals? It’s like waiting for Monday to start that diet. All you need is a new or tweaked mindset and you’re good to go.

2016 taught me a few things, things that I have taken to heart. The last year left me feeling sad, lonely and disappointed BUT it also left me feeling happy with lessons learnt and forever grateful for memories made.  I met people who made me laugh and those made me cry but even so, we shared moments that I will always look back on and smile.

My biggest lesson learnt in the last year was this; not everyone has the same heart as you, and not everyone cares about your happiness. Unfortunately, I learnt this the hard way. I tend to do things that make other people happy irrelevant of how I’m feeling, and that led to my own unhappiness.

I don’t want to become someone who doesn’t care about the next person’s happiness and I won’t allow my past experiences change me. In that way I am the same old me; I like to see people happy and I like to be the cause of it. When people say, “your happiness isn’t dependent on someone else”, I agree to an extent. By nature, we do depend on other people to make us happy, it’s how we are programmed and when we don’t get that message, that call or that visit, we are disappointed. We sit and wonder what it is that we have done to make people not want to make that effort. It’s unfortunate but true.

I think I am just at the point where I realize now more than ever before that people can truly be selfish and inconsiderate when it comes to other people and their feelings; and for that reason, we, I, have become a little bit guarded. Going forward I’m tackling certain situations with my head and not my heart and that applies to life, love, career and everything else. Don’t be confused though, I will still do what I can to make people happy – people who deserve my time and effort. If my intentions aren’t reciprocated, no hard feelings but bye-bye.

For those who have hurt, wronged or just had no consideration for me, I thank you. Thank you for the lesson, the memories and for being a part of my life. You have served your purpose. I fully believe that there is a reason for everyone you meet whether they’re in your life for a week, a year or a lifetime. Sometimes you need to let people go and that’s okay. You need to learn how to make your happiness a priority without making others unhappy and if you’re getting a vibe from someone that speaks differently to that, let them go. Life is too short to be anything but happy.

So 2017 here's to you, a year dedicated to happiness, in any form.

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